After you have established that norm, then we can go into, “So, we understand each other. Now what?”
I am glad you asked. The ability for a couple to take on a challenge to their relationship, adapt, and continue to work together towards their pursuit of happiness, is a staple that will be used their whole life long. It is the ability to learn from mistakes or to overcome obstacles that you did not plan for – and to be willing to encounter these conditions regularly.
The next step is taking this mutual understanding of thoughts, feelings and beliefs on a topic. Then look for willingness in each other to find agreement for change for your future on that topic (What will we do differently when/if this disagreement or misunderstanding comes up again in our future?) Between the two of you (and the resources that you both have at your disposal – wise parents, friends who have gone through something similar, local community supports, counselors, etc.), you should be able to at least come up with a few ideas on how to go through what you just did, but a “little bit” better. Coming to an agreement and giving each other permission to remind each other of your “little bit better” plan – doing it, and then talking again and seeing if it can still yet improve. This is the life-long practice of a couple willing to work together as an ever-evolving masterful team, dealing with life’s difficulties together.